What A Continuum of Care Means for Couples

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Many of us are lucky enough to be in long-term relationships in which we don’t have to age alone. This kind of togetherness is beautiful and should be preserved at any cost. To have someone who is with you your whole life, sharing joys and struggles, is what makes many of us feel whole. But as we age, our health needs change. Some of us need more care than others. We might develop unique needs. For example, one member of a couple might develop a condition that requires daily nursing care while the other might only require small assistance in daily living.


Situations such as these might make the couple need to live at different places. It may become necessary to cause splits of couples that have been together for decades so each can get their necessary care and treatment as they age differently.


But it’s not necessary.  Some senior living communities feature what is called a “continuum of care” that can allow couples to age in place together, with all of their needs being met.


So what is a “continuum of care community?” Well, it means simply that a large variety of healthcare needs are met in the same place.  It means Assisted Living, Skilled Nursing, Memory Care and more are all available under one roof. It means you can get high quality individualized care in one senior living community, and still live together as you’ve become accustomed.


If one member of a couple needs memory care and the other requires special medical attention for a chronic condition, a continuum of care community means there is no need for the couple to live separately. Each person has their own course of care and treatment while being able to share perhaps an apartment, meals and a social calendar. It means partners can remain together.



To learn more about our continuum of care community and putting life into your years, visit the Reutlinger Community at rcjl.org.

5 Ways to Surprise Your Mom This Mother’s Day

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While there are 365 days on the Calendar, we only set aside one day for Moms. But being a mom is a full-time job. Even as we grow up and move out our mothers are still concerned with us every day and will do what they can for us whether it’s to give us love, advice or something unexpected.  How do we show all that appreciation in only one day of the year? Well, here are some suggestions.

1. Make it Mother’s WeekMoms expect Mother’s Day. It’s on the Calendar. They appreciate that it’s happening, but it’s often a one-and-done obligation and not something more. This year, go the extra mile. Put together a Mother’s Week. Give her a gift every day for seven days. Take her on a trip with the family to one of her favorite places. Cook her seven of her favorite meals.  Show her what she means to you from Sunday to Sunday.

2. Cake for Breakfast – Our moms taught us that too much cake was bad for us, but they also gave them to us on our special occasions. We looked forward to them all day. We couldn’t wait. If your mom is a cake lover, don’t let her wait. Make her cake for breakfast. Yeah, it’s defying the natural order of things, but it’ll put a big smile on her face. She’ll never see it coming.


3. Plant Little Gifts Around Her Home – Let’s say you have a sibling. While they’re out at the local diner giving your mom cake for breakfast you can sneak into her home and leave little gifts for her to find. Maybe put an “I love you” card in her sock drawer or leave her a favorite meal in a box in her refrigerator with a ribbon around it.  Be creative.

4. Sing to Her  – Not all of us are musicians. Some of us can barely carry a tune. It doesn’t matter. Singing to someone you love is always a great way to show how much you care. If you sing beautifully, she will be flattered. If you sing terribly, she will appreciate that you are willing to embarrass yourself on her behalf. For her it’s a win/win. For you? Well, you made your mom happy and that’s what’s important.

5. Have an Honest Conversation With Her – We don’t want our moms to worry about us, but sometimes not wanting them to worry can result in us blowing off their concerns and making them feel uninvolved in our lives. We can do better. If only for one day, take your mom’s questions and concerns about your life seriously and give her full and honest answers. Having an honest conversation and really knowing how her kids are doing is a bigger treat than you might think.


5 Ways that Volunteering is Healthy for Both Sides of the Generational Divide

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Winston Churchill said that “You make a living by what you get, you make a life by what you give.” Some of us are students, not certain where our careers and futures will take us. Others are retirees, having concluded our careers, but still living with purpose. Both groups have something to give and something to gain by volunteering their time and their talents. The benefits of volunteering are many for the old, the young and everyone in between. Here are a few ways volunteering can make your life better.

Fight Depression

No matter where you are in life, depression can strike.  One of the key factors that causes depression is social isolation. By coming together with others for a common cause, that isolation decreases. Couple that togetherness with a sense of purpose and feelings of self-doubt can be driven out and replaced with those of self-worth.  Complements from your fellow volunteers will serve important reminders that the world is a better place because of you. 

Learn Valuable Skills

Everyone has something to teach someone else. There are no exceptions. Seniors have lifetimes of experience that they can pass down to others. Younger people are more in tune with the rhythms and technologies of modern life. Volunteers can help each other find skills that can range from the entertaining to the life altering. Maybe by volunteering for an art program you could discover a passion for the arts? Or by helping to renovate a home you discover a talent for carpentry? Maybe you’ll discover a love for blogging? The possibilities are endless.


Create Lasting Friendships

There is no rule that says that friendship only occurs within the same generation. Bonds of friendship between generations are more common than you think. By volunteering together people both young and old can create lasting and meaningful bonds. Travelling together, watching sports, performing in concerts, and simply enjoying a good walk are experiences that can be shared by almost anyone. 

Make A Real Difference

While volunteering has a number of side benefits the main reason, to change the world for the better, is valuable in and of itself. Doing good is always its own reward.  There is no substitute for the pride, satisfaction and joy that comes from helping others.

To learn more about volunteering opportunities, visit us at rcjl.org.